Little Pinch of Personality

Hey Personality,

I have forgotten about you. I have forgotten and got lost in the game of life.

You know the saying when you don't practice you loose. I lost my perception of self because I stopped focusing on the build personality. I have been just walking though life just letting it happen to me and not focusing on how I can react to it.

Welcome back into my life Personality. I will take the control back thank you,

Do not fear going forward; fear only to stand still

Last couple of months contained drastic changes in my life. And more changes are coming in the future! I am not able to fully absorb this change in my life. Hence, the state of fear has manifested itself in me!

Although, the times ahead do promise joy and happiness, why am I stuck in this state of fear? Why do I fear change? I suppose it's because of certain uncertainty it might bring. But change is inevitable! Whether I am looking for it or not, it sure finds me, time and time again. Change is truly inevitable and a necessity to survive. Absolutely unavoidable. Otherwise, we the human race would be stuck in one state of being for the rest of our lives. Our daily activities become robotic and boring.

It seems to me that I fear mostly not "Change" but the possibility that the change could bring "failure." But I have to take a leap of faith to move forward, and believe that change can bring new exciting experiences, new joy and happiness into my life. Hence, Success.


So as I sit back and watch my life unfold into new directions, I promise to myself that I will fully participate in this new adventure. Of course, this fear is still leaping around, but I choose to ignore it and move forward. I choose to take a leap of faith and enjoy the fruits of change. I am willing to transform into a new me, ready for change.

Break some Rules (OK only if it is safe)

Man Beat NFL Rules by Changing Last Name to “Ocho Cinco” http://www.yesbutnobutyes.com/archives/2008/09/they_call_me_oc.html

Wide receiver Chad Johnson of the Cincinnati Bengals wanted to put his nickname Ocho Cinco (his jersey number "eight five" in Spanish) on the back of his uniform, but strict NFL rules only allow for real surnames. So what did Chad do? He got his name legally changed to Chad Ocho Cinco! So the NFL now had no choice but to let him do it

I guess my title here doesn't make any sense since he didn't break any rules, he just worked around it... The old way is not always the right way.

Rules and norms are there to govern us. They help our society stay unified. Please note that I am not talking about law/government. It is strictly rules/norms that are imposed on society by society. In the NFL case the rule was the jersey name on the back worn by the players must match their last name. Imagine if there was no rule. Any one could have any name. People could use profane language, and that’s not good because children do watch NFL!

So there is a reason that rules exist... But that doesn't mean we can't work around them. Say you are given a sheet of paper with a rectangle box in the center. You are then asked to color the box with your favorite color (I would pick pink!!!!) and the rule was to color the box. Would you color inside the box or outside? I would color the entire paper with different pink shades... since the paper itself is a rectangle box (Creative huh!)

4 T's to a relationship

Recent trend is 'failed relationships.' Divorce rate is escalating. There is failure in parent-child relationship. Friendship is not the same as it used to be.

Here is my little wisdom on successfully maintaining a relationship. (My wisdom comes from merely observing my family's and other's relationship with each other) Let me call it Four T's for a great relationship.

1. Time
2. Talk
3. Touch
4. Treat

Time
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* Each relationship requires time from both parties.
* It is important to take time out to spend with one another to maintain the relationship.

Talk
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* Talk it out.
* You must have something in common to talk about to maintain the relationship
* Ask/Listen
* Talk about feelings (only if the other party is comfortable)
* Communicate, keep things simple
* Communicate even small issues. It's important to get the small things figured and solved immediately.

Touch
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* A pat in the back
* A hug
* Cuddle

Treat
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* Treat the other with praise
* Show your appreciation by your actions.
* Smile at them
* Example, treat them with a small ice-cream party just because you like them.

-DONE-

There are two faces to a penny

I have this friend. I can't really name her since she might read this, so let me call her Sophia.

Sophie seems sweet and caring. She is outgoing and entertaining. She has got it all. This is her face up.

She knows how to subtlety push people's button and seem innocent about it. She will make a small 'innocent' comment that is rude a hurtful and project innocence to herself.
My instincts tell me she is not innocent. When you confront her she covers by saying that she didn't mean it that way and that she is innocent in her words and that I should know her better. I guess I don’t. I love her hence I try to give her the benefit of the doubt, but my instincts tells me she is anything but.

You see Sophie is my long-term family friend. It used to bother me that she is this way. If she were a new acquaintance, I would dump her by now, but she is one of my family friends.

But now I have come to accept it and accept the fact that she will never change. Accept the fact that she will be around my life....Next time she brings out her other face, I will be ready and smart.

Stay Hungry | Stay Foolish

Word!

How crazy are you? (I mean in a good way)

They are many weird people in this world, but very few qualify as CRAZYYYYY. It's a real achievement! (Now, I don't mean insane crazy I mean fun crazy.) Do you take the weird opportunities or do you follow the 'normal' crowd.

What does Crazy mean?

Dictionary describes as....

1. Full of Cracks or flaws
2. Mad, insane
3. Being out of the ordinary
4. Distracted with desire or excitement

I am using crazy in the context of 1, 3, and 4 of definition above. To me crazy means anything that is not normal/norm/common. It means doing something different and something unexpected. Here is an example: Chenna Masala Curry! The recipe has been passed on to me from generations. I used to constantly make it in the certain way my mom taught me. One day I had a crazy idea and decided to experiment. My friends and family loved it. They want me to make it all the time now and want to know where I came up with the idea. My secret to the normal recipe is to add Italian sauce. Pretty Crazy huh… (You can try this with other dishes but not all of them will taste good.)

What does Normal mean anyway?

Dictionary describes as....

1. Conforming of a type, standard, or regular pattern
2. Occurring naturally
3. Of, relating to, or characterized by average intelligence or development.

Normal is just average. It's not below but it's not above either. If people expect you to be normal and you expect yourself to be normal you will never develop further and hence will not grow.

Here is an idea: In order to be better than average you have to implement craziness.
Caution: While implementing this idea, please keep in mind that there is a fine line between crazy and insanity.